Tag Archives: VBAC

The wrong questions to ask a woman after a traumatic birth.

Sometimes over the past 14 years of running Birthtalk.org we’ve heard well-intentioned people –  even some birth workers – ask the wrong questions to a woman who has just shared details about her traumatic birth. (And Melissa from Birthtalk.org had some of those questions asked of her, after her own traumatic birth.) Questions like : “Why didn’t you […]

Five steps you can take right now to begin to heal from your traumatic birth

After a traumatic birth, it can be so hard.  You have to deal with the needs of your newborn, and with any older children needing you. You might be floundering under the emotional and physical fallout from the birth. You might be finding that it is incredibly hard to get anyone at all to understand […]

Why breastfeeding can be so hard after a traumatic birth – and why it’s not your fault. [part 1]

  By the authors of How to Heal a Bad Birth: making sense, making peace and moving on, a gentle guide towards healing after a less-than-great birth. I felt very frustrated when the midwife was acting like I wasn’t trying to feed my baby. Of course I wanted to feed her! Of course I wanted to […]

How to write your birth story after a traumatic birth (& why it can be a healing step)

  Writing my birth story gave me my birth back. Somehow, knowing the order that things happened in, and what was going on beyond my own experience, and expressing fully what was going on for me, worked together to give me the feeling that, finally, it was ‘my’ birth. At last. Such a massive leap […]

Retrieving your birth records after a traumatic birth : how to get them, what to do with them, and why it can be a healing step

Many women who have had a traumatic birth retrieve their birth notes to aid in the healing process, and in preparation for a subsequent birth. Going over your notes (especially with a midwife who understands that birth matters) can be very powerful in helping you move to a new level of healing and knowledge. At […]

The Pitfalls of ‘Going With The Flow’ in Birth

So many of us aim to ‘just go with the flow’ as our birthplan. But could the gentle flow of birth we envisage actually be undermined with this approach? Could ‘going with the flow’ even be detrimental to a positive start to life for your new family?   Birthtalk.org (authors of How to Heal a […]

Gifts of the Healing Journey – a short Christmas message from Birthtalk.org

We would like to just say a quick “Merry Christmas” and thank all of you for joining Birthtalk this year, as we share the truth about traumatic birth. Since this is the season of ‘giving’, we wanted to share with you that there can be many wonderful gifts that come about as a result of […]