Tag Archives: Positive birth

“She Believed She Could” – why this saying has no place in birth.

We’e often seen this quote passed around natural birth groups online : “She believed she could….so she did.” And it’s always bothered us. Because while we wish it was true –  we wish that determination was enough – unfortunately in our birthing culture, it often isn’t. And because most women don’t know that – the […]

Do I need to avoid negative birth stories when I’m planning a positive birth?

Should we shut down negative or traumatic stories about birth? Or do we risk silencing women whose voice desperately needs to be heard? And are we missing an opportunity to clarify our own needs in preparation for a positive birth in the process?   Debby Gould and Melissa Bruijn are founders of Birthtalk.org, where, for […]

How to write your birth story after a traumatic birth (& why it can be a healing step)

  Writing my birth story gave me my birth back. Somehow, knowing the order that things happened in, and what was going on beyond my own experience, and expressing fully what was going on for me, worked together to give me the feeling that, finally, it was ‘my’ birth. At last. Such a massive leap […]

The Pitfalls of ‘Going With The Flow’ in Birth

So many of us aim to ‘just go with the flow’ as our birthplan. But could the gentle flow of birth we envisage actually be undermined with this approach? Could ‘going with the flow’ even be detrimental to a positive start to life for your new family?   Birthtalk.org (authors of How to Heal a […]