Tag Archives: perinatal mental health

After birth trauma – why go back over the birth when you can’t change the past?

How you can change your NOW by exploring BACK THEN.   You can’t change what happened in your birth. People we meet often ask us, “Why ‘go there’?  You can’t change what happened.” They are right. But… you CAN change your understanding of it. And your insights about the issues surrounding it. And your level of […]

No, I did not need my traumatic birth for personal growth

Why we need to stop telling women this was the birth they ‘had to have’.   18 years ago, I became mother to a plump little person who emerged from the fiery depths of a traumatic birth, and initiated me into motherhood. The impact of that birth shook me to the core. It rippled out […]

“She Believed She Could” – why this saying has no place in birth.

We’e often seen this quote passed around natural birth groups online : “She believed she could….so she did.” And it’s always bothered us. Because while we wish it was true –  we wish that determination was enough – unfortunately in our birthing culture, it often isn’t. And because most women don’t know that – the […]

Why can’t I just accept my traumatic birth?

Many women ask themselves this. But what if you don’t need to accept it, to heal? Debby Gould and Melissa Bruijn are founders of Birthtalk.org, where, for 15 years, they have supported women in healing from a traumatic birth, and guided them towards empowering and positive subsequent births. They are also authors of new book, […]