Tag Archives: negative birth

Rachael’s story: finally healing after traumatic birth, severe tearing, vaginal prolapse plus 3 failed repair surgeries.

“My body is still different after having three kids but it’s no longer “injured” or “broken”. It’s strong, functional and most of all comfortable!”  When we first met Rachael, she was resigning herself to living with constant pain from her first child’s traumatic arrival, after three failed surgeries to repair the damage, and dismissive attitudes […]

Do I need to avoid negative birth stories when I’m planning a positive birth?

Should we shut down negative or traumatic stories about birth? Or do we risk silencing women whose voice desperately needs to be heard? And are we missing an opportunity to clarify our own needs in preparation for a positive birth in the process?   Debby Gould and Melissa Bruijn are founders of Birthtalk.org, where, for […]

Why breastfeeding can be so hard after a traumatic birth – and why it’s not your fault. [part 1]

  By the authors of How to Heal a Bad Birth: making sense, making peace and moving on, a gentle guide towards healing after a less-than-great birth. I felt very frustrated when the midwife was acting like I wasn’t trying to feed my baby. Of course I wanted to feed her! Of course I wanted to […]

Introducing ‘How to Heal a Bad Birth’ – our new book!

Finally! After 8 years of writing, researching, sharing our knowledge, gathering poignant stories from women and men, and learning about the publishing process…all alongside caring for our families’ needs…our book is DONE. ‘How to Heal a Bad Birth : making sense, making peace and moving on’ will be available worldwide JUNE 23!

Retrieving your birth records after a traumatic birth : how to get them, what to do with them, and why it can be a healing step

Many women who have had a traumatic birth retrieve their birth notes to aid in the healing process, and in preparation for a subsequent birth. Going over your notes (especially with a midwife who understands that birth matters) can be very powerful in helping you move to a new level of healing and knowledge. At […]

Birth Trauma : Does Nature Give a Damn?

  In one of our most popular blogposts, titled “Childbirth – as traumatic as a mid-air QANTAS flight emergency?”, we make the following statement : “Birth can be good.  Which can be a hard thing for a woman traumatised by her birth to hear. But really, it explains one of the reasons that it hurts […]

The Pitfalls of ‘Going With The Flow’ in Birth

So many of us aim to ‘just go with the flow’ as our birthplan. But could the gentle flow of birth we envisage actually be undermined with this approach? Could ‘going with the flow’ even be detrimental to a positive start to life for your new family?   Birthtalk.org (authors of How to Heal a […]